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Lord Krishna, the Supreme Personality of Godhead, expanded Himself into human form many thousands of years ago in the form of Lord Rama, the prince of Ayodhya. Born into a very pious line of kings known as the Ikshvakus, the Lord was trained from His birth to be an expert kshatriya warrior. When the time came for His installation as the new king, the entire city rejoiced. Yet due to unforeseen circumstances, Maharaja Dashratha, the king of Ayodhya and father of Lord Rama, decided instead to install Rama’s younger brother Bharata as king. In addition, he ordered Rama to leave the kingdom and spend fourteen years in the forest as an exile.
Lord Rama went to tell his wife Sita Devi the news. Sita was the incarnation of Goddess Lakshmi whose appearance on earth coincided with that of Lord Rama’s. In the spiritual world, Lakshmi is the eternal consort of Lord Narayana, Krishna’s four-handed form. She is God’s better half and provides Him energy. As Sita Devi, Lakshmi performed the same functions by playing the role of Lord Rama’s wife. The two had enjoyed several years of marital bliss prior to the incidences surrounding Rama’s exile. Upon being given the order from His father, Lord Rama told Sita to remain in the kingdom for the exile period. While telling her this, the Lord appeared very dejected and His wife could see that. He didn’t want to leave her all alone, but He knew the laws of dharma dictated otherwise.
Lord Rama’s purpose was to kill Ravana and restore law and order. As a person committed to dharma, He knew that it would not be proper to take His wife with Him to the forest. In the Vedic tradition, a marriage is the union of a man and woman for life, where each person has particular responsibilities assigned to them. The wife’s role is to always serve and please the husband. The husband’s role is to provide complete protection to the wife under all circumstances. The concept of equality exists but on the spiritual level, not the material. By each person following their prescribed duties, the husband and wife share in the accumulated spiritual merits, meaning they both either ascend to heaven or fall down into hell after their current lives. Since Rama was invested with the duty of protecting His wife, He knew that Sita’s remaining in the kingdom would be more proper. Forest life is considered suitable for wild animals, beats, and men who have their senses completely under control. Akin to being homeless, a person can only survive in the forest if they can subsist on very little food and suffer through the most miserable of conditions. It was for this reason that only brahmanas, or great sages, would live in the forest. True brahmanas are completely dedicated to Krishna, so they automatically have their senses under control due to their service.
Lord Rama knew that it would be very difficult to provide His wife the protection she deserved if she were to roam the forest with Him. A husband or a wife is very difficult to maintain, as can be evidenced by the high divorce rate in the Western countries. The marriage relationship requires much time and effort even for the most committed of couples. A spouse requires constant attention, just as children do. Rama knew that Sita would be better protected in the kingdom where she would benefit from the services provided by the royal court. In the forest, Rama would be her sole source of protection, so He was afraid that she would be more vulnerable in such a situation.
“Why are you so dejected and whence is your fear that you are willing to leave behind your wife who has none else but you?” (Sita Devi speaking to Lord Rama, Valmiki Ramayana, Ayodhya Kand, Sec 27)
During a marriage ceremony, the wife is instructed to always follow the orders of her husband and to serve him faithfully. It appears that Sita was in defiance of this edict by her refusal to obey her husband’s advice that she remain in the kingdom. There are many different religious systems, each having their own rules and regulations. The purpose of these rules is to allow one to reach the platform of love of Godhead. Simply going through the motions of performing various sacrifices and singing hymns won’t take one to the highest stage of perfection.
“Men of small knowledge are very much attached to the flowery words of the Vedas, which recommend various fruitive activities for elevation to heavenly planets, resultant good birth, power, and so forth. Being desirous of sense gratification and opulent life, they say that there is nothing more than this.” (Lord Krishna, Bhagavad-gita, 2.42-43)
Sita Devi, being the perfect devotee of God, was already on the platform of love of God. She transcended any and all laws of dharma. Lovingly serving Krishna is the topmost form of dharma. In this instance she put up a staunch fight, for her only mission in life was to act in Krishna consciousness, and to always be at Rama’s side.
“I envy no one, nor am I partial to anyone. I am equal to all. But whoever renders service unto Me in devotion is a friend, is in Me, and I am also a friend to him.” (Bg. 9.29)
