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The purpose of human life is to elevate one’s consciousness to the point where all thoughts are directed towards Krishna, or God. At this stage, one’s consciousness is completely pure and the spirit soul thus becomes eligible to return back home, back to Godhead after the current life ends. The purification of our thoughts can only be achieved by directing every thought towards the supreme object of worship, Lord Shri Krishna. Directing our consciousness anywhere else can lead to trouble.
Unchecked desires lead to lust and anger.
“While contemplating the objects of the senses, a person develops attachment for them, and from such attachment lust develops, and from lust anger arises.” (Lord Krishna, Bhagavad-gita, 2.62)
“I want this. I want that…From now on, I’m going to act in this certain way, or I will avoid this certain thing. This will make me happy.” The mind is always making plans for sense gratification. This is due to the fact that the material senses can never be satisfied. Even if we have momentary feelings of bliss and peacefulness, tumult, chaos, and despair are sure to return. Then the cycle repeats itself. Desire can be very dangerous because it can cause us to act without knowledge. The world of sports gives us many examples of this. In the sport of tennis, the annual Grand Slam tournament Wimbledon is considered the most prestigious. Having a long history and tradition, Wimbledon is the only major tournament that still plays on a grass court. Every aspiring tennis player hopes to one day win this tournament. In the mid 1980s, Ivan Lendl was the number one male tennis player, completely dominating the sport. The one thing missing on his resume was a Wimbledon title. He had trouble playing on grass early in his career, but he steadily improved on the fast surface. In 1986 and 1987, Lendl made the Wimbledon final, only to lose both times. As the years went by, Lendl became more and more desirous of winning Wimbledon. Tennis Magazine even ran a story about this desire, calling it The Magnificent Obsession. Sadly, Lendl would never win this most coveted of titles.
Sex desire is probably the most difficult to control. Sex is the ultimate material enjoyment, and for this reason, it serves as the greatest impediment towards advancing in spiritual life. God is very smart, much smarter than us. Knowing full well the dangers of unrestricted sex life, He put into place the four ashramas of life, with grihastha being the second. Marriage is the cornerstone of grihastha life; a man and woman living together through the bond of holy matrimony. Householder life isn’t meant simply to enjoy material pleasures, but rather it is a way to restrict sexual activity. As we can see in today’s society, chasing after a boyfriend or girlfriend can be quite time consuming and distressful. One has to find someone they like, chase after them, and then hope that the other person feels the same way. If a relationship starts, then the troubles increase even more. Couples have to worry about how their relationship is progressing, and whether or not each person is happy. They have to decide when or if they should get married, where they should live, etc.
God doesn’t want us to worry about all these things. For this reason, the Vedas advise parents to arrange their children’s marriages at a very young age, when the child first has inkling for sex desire. In this way, a husband and wife can live peacefully, leaving more time for service to God. That is the true purpose of each of the four ashramas, including grihastha. They are all stepping stones aimed at purifying one’s consciousness.
A question that is bound to be asked is, “Ok, so we’re supposed to avoid all karmic activity? Fine. What about all the hours in the day? What are we supposed to do with our time?” The Vedas have an answer for this. Naturally, the living entity must be active. That is the nature of the soul. One cannot artificially renounce all activity and just sit in meditation all day. That is not possible in this day and age. Even if it were, if one were to stop all activity on the surface, the mind would still lead them to desire things. As long as this desire exists, the effect is the same as if one was actually engaging in sinful activity:
“One who restrains the senses and organs of action, but whose mind dwells on sense objects, certainly deludes himself and is called a pretender.” (Bg. 3.6)
There are nine distinct processes that constitute devotional service: hearing, chanting, remembering, serving the lotus feet of the Lord, worshiping Him, offering prayers, carrying out His orders, becoming friends with Him, and surrendering everything unto Him. It’s not possible for most of us to engage in all of these processes. That is reserved for the highly advanced devotees like Sita Devi, Lord Rama’s wife. Nevertheless, we need only engage in one of these activities perfectly in order to achieve success in purifying our consciousness.
