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मयि भक्तिर्हि भूतानाममृतत्वाय कल्पते
दिष्ट्या यदासीन्मत्स्नेहो भवतीनां मदापन:
mayi bhaktir hi bhūtānām
amṛtatvāya kalpate
diṣṭyā yad āsīn mat-sneho
bhavatīnāṁ mad-āpanaḥ
What is the ideal way that someone can win our favor? If they are looking to please us, to put a smile on our face, to remove our distresses, what behavior will be endearing? We can think of different ways, some of which are pertinent to the specifics of our environment at present. We can think of a broader range of characteristics, which would be applicable during any period of time. On the occasion of Radhashtami, we celebrate the behavior of a person who is known for chastising the Supreme Personality of Godhead, Shri Krishna. She occasionally exhibits a sulky mood, and through her qualities she is known to distract the attention away from the hymns of the Vedas.
The Vedas are like religious texts, but there is deeper value. They are not simply rules and regulations, such as yama and niyama. They describe more than what to do and what not to do, pravritti and nivritti. Those rules are always important. They help to navigate through the otherwise dangerous minefield that is the material existence.
प्रवृत्तिं च निवृत्तिं च कार्याकार्ये भयाभये
बन्धं मोक्षं च या वेत्ति बुद्धि: सा पार्थ सात्त्विकीpravṛttiṁ ca nivṛttiṁ ca
kāryākārye bhayābhaye
bandhaṁ mokṣaṁ ca yā vetti
buddhiḥ sā pārtha sāttvikī“O son of Pritha, that understanding by which one knows what ought to be done and what ought not to be done, what is to be feared and what is not to be feared, what is binding and what is liberating, that understanding is established in the mode of goodness.” (Lord Krishna, Bhagavad-gita, 18.30)
Time is infinite in both directions. Bhagavan is both anadi and ananta. He has no beginning, and there will never be an end to His position, His greatness, His standing, His presence, and His commanding authority. Therefore, the Vedas are like a book whose pages continue to be written. It is like the periodical which is always publishing new volumes. With each passing moment, in whatever units we choose to measure that time, the infinite glories of Bhagavan, as documented for our understanding, continue to expand.
लव निमेष परमानु जुग बरस कलप सर चंड
भजसि न मम तेहि राम कहँ कालु जासु कोदंडlava nimeṣa paramānu juga barasa kalapa sara caṃḍa
bhajasi na mama tehi rāma kaha~ kālu jāsu kodaṃḍa“Mind, why are you not worshiping Shri Rama, whose bow is like time, with weapons of arrows representing the different units of time, such as paramanu, lava, nimesha, barasa, yuga, and kalpa?” (Dohavali, 130)
Revisiting the original question of how someone could gain our favor, obviously something resembling Vedic hymns would be suitable. Who does not like to hear their own praises? In front of others, in a large gathering, the effusive support might make us embarrassed in a sense, but deep down it is nice to know that others appreciate us. Except for the heel-type character in professional wrestling, most people prefer to be liked, to be noticed for making a positive contribution to society.
The relationship with the gopis of Vrindavana is peculiar in the sense that they are not necessarily known for their praise. In their external position, the gopis are servants. They live under the protection of others. They help to keep the farm community running. They are always working, but not desperate for profit, notoriety, distinction, or personal gain. Rather, they only want to please Shri Krishna, who is their beloved.
The relationship is not formalized through marriage or a similar official ceremony. The meetings take place clandestinely. Someone like Shrimati Radharani risks her reputation in order to meet with Krishna. Despite not being involved with a reputable path of spiritual life, aligning with the tradition inaugurated by the Vedic hymns, the gopis still win the favor of Krishna. He one time personally gave validation in this area.
In Closing:
Sulking mood to display,
And harsh words to say.
That Krishna the worst of all,
As debauchee to call.
From Radha and gopis the rest,
Known as devotees the best.
Because devotion impossible to break,
Blessings from their closeness to take.

